Sometimes the best response is no response. In not responding with anger towards someone who expects us to get angry we do not allow ourselves to be wrapped up into their negativity – which only escalates things right? We also set boundaries with them by saying “I will not allow you to make me feel enraged as I have control over my reactions, you do not”. This is the hidden message.
Don’t get me wrong, feeling angry is a normal emotion, as any other emotion we may feel, however, what happens when we become angry is what we want to watch out for. Our reactions. If someone provokes you so that you become enraged remember that this is their crap, not yours, and the best response is most likely no response.
One of my favorite quotes: “Holding onto anger is like drinking poison and expecting the other person to die”.