Let your past become your magic, not your oppressor.

I had a conversation with someone a few weeks ago about the anger they held toward a parent for something that was done in the past.

Here was my response...

"This may or may not annoy you - but let it soak in and just hear me out.

There comes a time where we have to become the ruler and creator of our own lives and break away from the stories that keep us hostage to our past.

It’s your choice. To stay in it or leave in behind.

Each time you speak of it, whether to your friends, family, or even your therapist, begin to allow yourself to let go of those old stories.

Little by little, let go of the attachments to them. Such as you’re owed an apology or an explanation. Because the truth is - you’re not. You're not owed anything in this life. Ouch. I know. It may feel good but it's not necessary for healing to take place. Nor is forgiveness.

Let go of the expectation you have around needing something before you can move on. All you need is you. You don’t need permission. The permission lies within you.

You are the creator of you current reality. This is where you are now. In the present moment. Own your power and move mountains.

And even though it may seem completely contradictory right now, forgive yourself and your past.

Then express gratitude. For you are who you because of your past.

Your passion, kindness, compassion and your gifts have been awakened because of your experiences.

This doesn’t mean what happened to you was ok, but it has happened, and now it’s about it becoming your magic and not your oppressor." 

When To Zip Your Lip!

Sometimes the best response is no response. In not responding with anger towards someone who expects us to get angry we do not allow ourselves to be wrapped up into their negativity – which only escalates things right? We also set boundaries with them by saying “I will not allow you to make me feel enraged as I have control over my reactions, you do not”. This is the hidden message.

Don’t get me wrong, feeling angry is a normal emotion, as any other emotion we may feel, however, what happens when we become angry is what we want to watch out for. Our reactions. If someone provokes you so that you become enraged remember that this is their crap, not yours, and the best response is most likely no response.

One of my favorite quotes: “Holding onto anger is like drinking poison and expecting the other person to die”.

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